We all have a “love tank” that needs to be filled in order for us to express love to others, but there are different means by which our tank can be filled, and there are different ways that we can express love to others. Dr. Chapman divides love languages into five categories:
• WORDS OF AFFIRMATION Compliments, words of encouragement, and requests rather than demands affirm the self-worth of your spouse.
• QUALITY TIME Spending quality time together through sharing, listening, and participating in joint meaningful activities communicates that we truly care for and enjoy each other.
• RECEIVING GIFTS Gifts are tangible symbols of love, whether they are items you purchased or made or are merely your own presence made available to your spouse. Gifts demonstrate that you care, and they represent the value of the relationship.
• ACTS OF SERVICE Criticism of your spouse’s failure to do things for you may be an indication that “acts of service” is your primary love language. Acts of service should never be coerced but should be freely given, and completed as requested.
• PHYSICAL TOUCH Physical touch, as a gesture of love, reaches to the depths of our being. As a love language, it is a powerful form of communication — from the smallest touch on the shoulder to the most passionate kiss.
If you are feeling unloved in your marriage it could be that your spouse is not speaking your love language. It also could be that you are not speaking their love language either. So please visit my 5 Love Language page at http://www.durkac.com/marriage/5-love-languages/ and learn more about this awesome tool.
While you are at http://www.durkac.com/marriage/5-love-languages/ you’ll find a link to an online 5 Love Language profile that you can do for free to help determine your love language!