Men fix things, or at least try to, so ladies if you have a problem or a challenge at work or with family and you start to vent or debrief that issue with your husband, before you do you must ask your self these two questions:

1.) Do you want the solution? Do you want the quick fix solution to eliminate the problem? If you do, start telling your problem to your husband. Do not preface it, just blurt it out and within a few minutes he will automatically give you the most logical cut-to-the-chase solution. You may not like his solution because it will use every tool he conceives as being effective to achieve the solution, but it will be the most logical if you don’t care about anybody’s feelings.

2) Do you want his support? Do you simple want to vent about the problem and have his support? If you really just want your husband’s support – or at least feel like he’s with you on the journey of the problem – then you must preface the problem to him before you actually start communicating it to him, you need to tell him that you do not want him to fix it, just listen. If you tell a man to listen, he can do that. That is a task, and men think by tasks, so if you want a solution to that issue give him that task. If you just want to share the issue with him so you have his support as you deal with it and think it through, you must tell him that.