Conflict Assessment

This is an outline of issues to consider together as you plan for marriage or as a tool for identifying conflict with marriage. It’s an assessment tool that I developed and use in Marriage Care, along with the 5 Love Languages“FORGIVE & LOVE” Premarital Assessment, and “PRAYER” Resolution Guide tools.

 

   Premarital Discussion

As you review these areas of your life, think of your future with your mate in marriage, and ask yourself if there are “adjustments to” and/or “compatibility with” these seven aspects that will impact your marriage relationship…

 

1) – Family | Consider your marriage with yours’ & spouses’ parents? children? step-kids? ex-spouses? How do you expect them to influence your marriage and/or be part of your marriage? 

 

2) – Outlook | Consider your marriage with yours’ & spouses’ life goals? family goals? religious beliefs? world views? political views? How do you expect them to influence your marriage and/or be part of your marriage? 

 

3) – Responsibilities | Consider your marriage with yours’ & spouses’ financial temperament? child support? debts? financial obligations? spending habits? How do you expect them to influence your marriage and/or be part of your marriage? 

 

4) – Genetics | Consider your marriage with yours’ & spouses’ family traits? personality? physical attractions? diseases? temperament? How do you expect them to influence your marriage and/or be part of your marriage? 

 

5) – Interests | Consider your marriage with yours’ & spouses’ cultural backgrounds? friends? hobbies? pastimes? holiday activities? high-risk pastimes? How do you expect them to influence your marriage and/or be part of your marriage? 

 

6) – Vocation | Consider your marriage with yours’ & spouses’ employment? job hours? job stress levels? career requirements? continuing education? How do you expect them to influence your marriage and/or be part of your marriage? 

 

7) – Experiences | Consider your marriage with yours’ & spouses’ past relationships? education levels? trauma? post traumatic stress issues? How do you expect them to influence your marriage and/or be part of your marriage? 

 

 

Marriage Ministry…

I am not a licensed or clinically trained counselor, but as a church pastor I am sometimes available to meet with couples who would like to talk about their current relationship status, to prepare for marriage itself or to work on improving it now. Please contact me if you have any questions or would like to talk

Marriage • The Grandma StoryPremarital Counseling“FORGIVE & LOVE” Premarital Assessment“PRAYER” Resolution Guide • 5 Love Languages1 Corinthians 13:4-7Conflict AssessmentNeed to Talk?